It takes a thick skin and patience and humour but there are good ones on there. Also nutcases but try and weed them out early on! KintsugiForever At least you don't get messaged by people your not interested with the matching type ones. Register today and join the discussion Have your say, get notified on what matters to you and see fewer ads Register now.

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OP's posts: See next See all. Add message Report 1, handleClick { this. Add message Bookmark. See all. I just deleted Tinder so I'd be keen to find out if there are any I'm missing! I met my now H on POF. Was on Match too. CatAndHisKit On MN people often recommend Bumble no personal experience. Advertisement device! breakpoint { window. midThreadVideoParams; window. Crumpets4butter Guardian Soulmates closer recently sadly 🙁 - too much competition from the Apps.

Same here, met my xh online and he was horrendous and back on there so some poor soul will fall for his act. Dated in the past Peter Pan syndrome not attractive , me do all the work and running around then when it comes to him putting a modicom if effort in his wages didn't come through so could I get the train again no , obese nothing wrong with obese but maybe mention it instead of claiming to be average, as I'm really into walking very fast, can't run and so on.

It's grim. Currently chatting to someone, it was fun for the first 24 hours but he's reverting to monosyllabic answers with the off breadcrumb question I answer in detail to be met with deafening silence. My friend has been seeing a guy she met on POF for a couple of months. She thinks he is a good catch. I'm not so sure, I think it has disaster written all over it. Lol, I've been doing it for years on and off on various sites and only once got asked for more pics, he got quite upset at the insinuation when I asked what kind and blocked me.

How have I avoided this? Well, maybe it's because I don't reply to anyone who says "Hi, like your pics'" or "you're gorgeous", I've got a filter on that stops short messages coming through that blocked loads and also, if they haven't bothered to look at my profile and ask something relevant about it, then I don't reply.

Sometimes I'm first to message, you can tell based on their profile what they are about - unless they've not bothered filling it in, which results in rejection ask me! I'm also not replying to the hey gorgeous messages. The latest really shocked me as we had spent the previous night having a lovely back and forth conversation.

I'll see if I can set my filters even stronger. I met my DP on POF over 5 years ago now. I messaged him and it went from there. There are good men out there and in the world outside OLD of course! wishing you all the best with it! I've come to say I'm having no luck with OLD either. The conversations are so bland, I could end up falling asleep. I'm sick of being asked my favourite position or 'how I like it'. I'm honestly beginning to question if this is normal behaviour or if men are just complete and utter sleazes.

Also, I had a guy tell me he wants to tie me up and gag me. Not a great conversation starter 🙄 I'm also thinking of starting a page to rate dick pics, because the amount I get is dreadful. Might as well make use of them.

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Add message Bookmark. See all. im screaming Which orifice I mean who the fuck says that? Advertisement device! breakpoint { window. midThreadVideoParams; window. createElement 'script' ; script. js'; document. appendChild script ; } } }" x-on:cmp-response-received. I think OLD is the wrong platform for me. Anyone had better success with other platforms? Wannabegreenfingers I think OLD is the wrong platform for me.

WhatInTheHell I've come to say I'm having no luck with OLD either.

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Morning All, To say I'm gutted is an understatement to be honest. In October I felt finally ready to try online dating. It was a really big deal for me as in July I left my husband after finally admitting to myself that my 18 year relationship was abusive. Cue starting to put the pieces of my life back today.

My profile apparently was refreshing honest and funnily enough I wasn't trying to scam or make any money out of anyone. I left my guards down alittle and started to engage with the world.

The man I chose to put my trust back in took only 1 month to smash to bits the little self respect etc I had gain. And I let him, willingly. Its all my own fault, I hear you say!!!! Well maybe so but I put it like this, if you don't put down your guards then you never are really able to love wholeheartedly.

So I just feel do sad, back at square one again. Feeling used and taken advantage of. I feel a fool which is appropriate as I was born on April fools day Do I go away again and lack my wounds or try again believing that this time things maybe different?

I signed up again at the weekend but have since deleted since the same old issues were still there, I. e awful men. I have no advice just to say you are not alone!

It sucks! I would turn this around Wow 3 dates was all it took for me to recognise a twat How great am I as previously I'd have given him more time How lucky am I that he's not my problem Now back to the start , who else took my fancy , who was polite , didn't talk about dick pics , didn't seem married or a weirdo??? There are decent men out there , it's just a case of swimming through the mud to find them Don't beat yourself up. Thank you for your positive words hazelgrey.

Three seperate men: 1. Date 1 worked out he was a know 2. Got sucked in too deep too quick, more than I should and I'm cross with myself. Top bloke but no spark Thanks for the positive pants, I'll try and wear them all day. QueenBee42 My history 🤨 Date 1 turned up drunk Date 2 I thought was his dad - at least 15 years older than pics and age given Date 3 wanted to marry me before I'd finished my coffee Had an 84 year old ask me the size of my tits Didn't know if I should laugh or cry 😂 I gave up but live in hope that some decent bloke will lock eyes over the last box of fish fingers in the Tesco freezer Yip, pull up them pants , shoulders back , tits out and enjoy your day 😜.

You need skin as tough as rhino hide for OLD, there are ways of dating without letting your barriers down too far. How is your life outside of dating? Friends and family? Come and join us on the dating thread on here as we traverse dating in and soon We're a great supportive bunch who laugh, cry, moan, laugh and joke. Morning OP. Online dating can be soul destroying. I've dated a few men over the years who have just wanted something casual or claimed they weren't ready for a relationship 4 or 5 dates in when I was starting to really like them.

I recently went on a date with someone I would have liked and he has ghosted me. Online dating is all down to luck but it might be worth persevering with when you are ready as I've heard some success stories. There were a few tears, one noteable heartbreak.

Most were nice but just no spark. One absolute player. When I met my husband he felt like home. Well done first of all for not letting an abusive relationship turn you into an over guarded fortress.

Yep, you have to be willing to let some guards down. And you didnt hang around once you realised they weren't good for you. I like the Matthew husseys advice on dating he's great , look him up if you haven't. It boils down to.. you should set the pace, if theyre moving really fast you can and, given your history, should slow it down. Part of the issue with shaky self esteem is that when someone comes along blowing smoke up our arse and charming the pants off us it can be so compelling that we aren't stopping to ask 'who are they?

Its too easy to get swept up in it all bevause they're giving us something esteem. It takes a lot of courage to put yourself 'out there' again. This happens a lot so please don't think it's just you. I agree that you have to take a risk to find love and be loved again. You've got some idea now about the pitfalls so I really think you should focus on having the experience to know better.

Take your time. What about 3.? Sometimes the spark happens later, some times it's a slow burn that becomes a long lasting fire. SortingItOut Thank you, I will join. I have spoken to many good friends. They hate him, what he did was cruel and I'd been so open and honest about lots in my life including my sister dieing in June aged It was so so intense.

It almost feels like he set me up yo fail, made me sleep deprived and hanger not good for showing my best self. Big hugs to you ahhhh how I wish I could dance girls 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Themummilly thank you. I'll never stop shoeing my light. In the hope someone will see it for what it is.

TheTrinity Thank you for taking the time to read and reply. I really wish I could fall for no. He is adorable but I just haven't got that thing. He will become a good friend though I'm sure and I can help him in his business.

He has a giving heart. Merry Christmas xx. supercali77 thank you, your words mean alot. Its not been an easy 2 years but then it hasn't for lots of people. I understand completely, he is great, he voices a sleep app too 🤣🤣🤣🤣🥵🥳 I agree much slow next time.

Make them work for my brilliance. I always try to see the best in everyone. Merry Christmas yo you and yours xx. Didimum Ahhh that's lovely. I know there are lots of happy love stories. I here it all the time from the old people I look after. I want that kind of love.

I'm glad you've popped back and you've got support in real life. I'd been so open and honest about lots in my life This is interesting why did you feel the need to be so open and honest so early on? Some men prey on vulnerable women and if you told him about your terrible marriage you are playing right into his hands.

It sounds like his plan was always to reel you in, build you up, then spit you back out causing a proper head fuck. the truth was I put up with emotional abuse and emotional affairs for 17yrs and I was a wreck by the time I left. I would like to give you some hope. Spent all that time concentrating on myself and my kids, finding out what makes me happy and filling my life with great things to do and new hobbies.

I have loved being single and independent. A family wedding a few months ago made me rethink things so I signed up to a paid dating site. Nothing to loose but I was on a mission. I treated it like another job. I had the mindset of looking for the perfect candidate. Be ruthless, have high standards and remember you deserve the best. It was extremely hard work as I am clueless to all of this OLD and I invested a lot of time learning how it all worked and a few hiccups along the way. I would immediately delete anyone that sent inappropriate first messages or had horrendous grammar please don't judge!

I even knocked a guy back who didn't answer the phone when we were meant to have our first chat, apparently his dad was ill?!

It only takes a message to let me know but he eventually tried to call me back the next morning but NEXT!

OP's posts: See all. Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Should I just move on as I'm starting to get feelings for him x. I had a year of awful men, ghosting, heartbreak, love bombing the lot! It sucks! See all. They hate him, what he did was cruel and I'd been so open and honest about lots in my life including my sister dieing in June aged

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